Did you know – you probably do – that telling your child “eat x then you can eat y” will increase their dislike for x? And if you say “if you are good you can eat y” you will increase their liking for y? So, if we were being sensible, we would tell our children “If you are good you can have a floret of cauliflower” and “eat all your potatoes and then you can have some cabbage”. But we don’t, do we? Or at least I don’t. Not even now, when at 2 years old I reckon X has such negligible peer pressure that he may even buy into the con.
Our attitudes to feeding our kids is absolutely crucial to how they react to food. Yet an article in the Psychologist (the British Psychological Society’s monthly publication) states that research shows that kids’ attitudes to food can be influenced by their parents, peers, teachers and…fictional cartoon heroes. Go on. Eat your broccoli. Bob the Builder eats his…..
But if you want to increase the child’s liking for something and increase how much they eat it praise and stickers is, apparently the way to go (Horne et al. 2004).
Advice to use praise and rewards always has me checking the Unconditional Parenting resources, who state that these things are unhelpful on many levels, including that we are telling our children how to feel, making them “praise junkies” who will only continue to do the thing they are praised for as long as the praise is forthcoming. The proponents of Unconditional Parenting suggest that we back off, just name what the child has done “you ate broccoli!” and ask them more how they feel rather than tell them how they have made us feel. I praise X. A lot. I can’t help it. But I do see this point of view and try and measure any suggestion of rewards and praise with these opinions. There is a lot of information on the internet on Unconditional Parenting if you are interested. And some good books too.
The next finding the Psychologist article mentions is how repeated exposure to food (requiring repeated tastings) enhances the liking for that food. But it may take up to 15 taste exposure to enhance the liking of a food. This is annoying as it can be hard to persuade a baby or toddler to “just try it once” ! The rejection of new foods is quite common in 4 year olds. Between 1 and 2 years of age new foods are more frequently tried, but by age 4 (or, in some research 2 years old) (Cook et al., 2003) this willingness to try novel foods is at its lowest level and is referred to as neophobia (Cashden, 1994). Giving it a funky name like this does not make it a clinical problem though. There is a sensible reaction behind the dislike of new foods, primarily the fear of being poisoned. These kids are becoming very independent at this age, and it is a good thing that they don’t just stuff everything into their mouths to eat.
Being a “picky eater” is generally more commonly seen in boys and does more commonly center around vegetables (whereas in adult food neophobics it is more likely to be animal foodstuffs that are rejected). We don’t help our youngsters (especially the very little ones) if we do not let them touch the food they are about to eat and generally get a sense of it before it goes in the mouth. For older children, involving them in the preparation of food can help overcome the reluctance to try new things. Food neophobia is best overcome with regular repeated exposure to the rejected food – particularly fruit, vegetables, eggs and meat (Cook et al. 2003).
However, it is important not to increase tension at the table. The research (by Moore et al., 2007 and Moore, Tapper & Murphy, 2010a) discussed in the Psychologist article focused on mothers’ reports of their 3-5 year olds eating. Rewards and retribution were used by many mothers, despite this being found in research to have negative consequences. Not one of the mothers seemed to know that food neophobia is common in this age group and none mentioned their child liking a food as being a goal for eating. That is really sad!
A clever woman, and experienced mother, observed in a group I was at recently that we don’t treat our friends, or ourselves, as we treat our children. We don’t force ourselves or our friends to clear our plates, and we don’t refuse to serve dessert to those who do not wish to eat all their main course. This is true, and what’s more, we try and give our friends food we know they will like, and don’t hover over them while they eat (in fact we also don’t get on with the washing/cleaning/washing up while they eat, but do tend to join them at the table). There is a lot to be said for using this approach with our kids (while ensuring we keep trying new foods with them, based on the repeated exposure theory to help with any reluctance to try novel tastes).
We also trust our friends to control their own diet. We don’t do this with our kids, even though it is believed that, when left to their own devices (and given a range of healthy options), children do tend to make choices that equate to a heathy diet – it just may only be healthy if you view it over a month, rather than daily (Gonzales, 2005). X certainly goes through days of only seeming to eat protein, or carbs, or peas…. Birch and Fisher (1995) also found that almost all children will self-regulate what they eat to ensure the appropriate amount of nutrients that they need to grow and develop. So basically, other words, your toddler will eat what is needed to support his or her growth.
Finally, a word on portion sizes. I have only just realised that I am constantly forgetting what a reasonable portion for X is. A portion of food for a toddler is actually very small (1/2 a banana, 1-2 tbsp peas/chopped veg, 2 tbsp cereal, 1/4-1/2 slice of bread, 1/2 egg, 1 tbsp peanut butter, 1 oz meat).
Some of the following approaches may help get through meal times with less stress:
Try not to go down the “if you eat [your peas] you can have [ice cream]. Instead try praise (or just commenting) when they do eat the food you are hoping that the will eat.
Try not to use food as a reward!
Keep trying to introduce new foods, remembering that it is likely to take a LOT of presentations before your little one tastes or seems to enjoy the food.
Involve your child in preparing their meal. Make it fun!
Try and relax at mealtimes. Making it a battle will only make it worse.
Make mealtimes a family occasion. Don’t leave your child to eat alone. Try and sit together at a table.
Small portions! Remember they only have little tummies, and lots of food on a plate can be very overwhelming. X eats less the more I give him.
Keep offering healthy snacks (stopping snacks is unlikely to make them eat more at mealtimes) and try to offer a couple of choices every snack time. You are encouraging independence, giving some control and helping your child develop their own tastes.
It probably wouldn’t hurt to claim that your child’s favourite toy/character/cartoon hero likes the food you are presenting….
Ice cream isn’t just for rewards! Making a food “banned” or “forbidden” or only for special occasions increases the desire for that food. Trust your child to know what food they want and need (from offered healthy choices) and, like you, let them occasionally have ice cream as part of a healthy balanced diet.
Need help when it comes to tips for organizing and creating more space for your kid’s rooms? A kid’s room is often a multi-tasking room, which means it is a space that requires efficient organization or else it ultimately becomes a cluttered mess.
Kids today do much more in their rooms than just sleep. They go to their rooms to play, to do homework, to read books, enjoy fun time with friends, and to simply hide from the world. A kids room should be a reflection of who they are as a person, and we can keep this in mind when we are organizing their large assortment of stuff.
Organizing kids rooms can be a lot of fun. There are so many wonderful products available on the market, making organizing and decorating their rooms all work together to make a fun creative space that our kids will want to keep clean!
Tips For Organizing Kids Rooms and Creating More Space
Fabric storage bins in coordinating styles and colors are perfect for housing everything from school papers, favorite books, small toys, or clothing items. Use these on bookshelves, under a nightstand, in closet cubbies, or under the bed.
Toy bins are great for younger children’s rooms. They’ll learn early to participate in cleaning up their toys at the end of the day.
Children should be able to reach the clothes in their closet so there’s one less excuse for the clothing and clutter being tossed on the floor instead of being hung in the closet.
Dressers should contain only those clothes the child is wearing currently. Set a goal for each month or every season to go through your child’s clothing and purge what doesn’t fit. Include your child in the process to help her take ownership of her own room.
Store seasonal clothing on the top shelves of the closet in clear, labeled bins.
Every item should have designated place. Use bookshelves, clear containers, baskets, cubbies, toy boxes, photo storage boxes, under-the-bed storage boxes, or any other container needed to help your child understand where each thing in her room belongs.
Plastic shoeboxes with photos of the toy it contains makes it quick and easy for your child to put small items away properly.
Provide a clothes hamper she can reach so dirty clothes are contained.
Shelving at the ceiling can display breakable or vintage items that you’d prefer your child not play with on a regular basis. This type of display fits into many decorating styles as well.
Customize the storage options to your child. For example, use bicycle baskets on walls for the avid cyclist in the family. Beach buckets would look great on a bookshelf and hold small toys for a beach enthusiast. You get the general idea, right?
Over-the-door fabric shoe racks are great for storing art supplies, stuffed animals, or small cars.
Include your children when you’re de-cluttering their rooms. They need to participate in the process or else they may never develop the skills necessary to tackle her messy room and organize it successfully.
3 Quick Tips To Maintain The De-cluttered Kid’s Room
Have a designated time of day to have the kids do a quick pick up
Have a time once a week for a more thorough organizing
Establish a tangible “playtime” reward for cleaning up at your designated times
With these tips for organizing, I hope this will get you started on de-cluttering and creating more space for your kid’s rooms. Don’t forget to have some fun making your kids room’s their unique space even with the organizing items you use. Get creative with the storage so your kids will have incentive to keep it clean.
I have been a mother for 12 years now. Mother guilt is something that I have personally struggled with for years. I no longer face this mother guilt battle and here are a few lessons I have learned:
1. Give yourself TIME – When a newborn baby is placed in your arms or you have motherhood thrust upon you from a different situation, you are not expected to be an expert immediately. There is no motherhood handbook that holds all the answers for what is best for you and your family. It takes time to learn mothering skills, to develop love, to know and understand a child who is in your care and to gain experience of what works and what doesn’t. This is done over many days and many sleepless nights. It is a journey that you are learning together. Slow down and enjoy it!
2. Trust your own HEART – When it comes to your children and your family, YOU are the one who knows what choices are good, better and best. You know deep down in your heart what path to take, what your own personal and family desires are and what great hopes and dreams you have for your children. No-one else will love them the way you do and you are blessed with the gift of instincts to lead you each day as you prepare and raise your children the best way you can.
3. Have a REALISTIC PERSPECTIVE – No mother is perfect. Many mothers may look perfect and act like they are perfect, but no mother really IS perfect. In this challenging journey of motherhood having a realistic vision of what you can achieve individually and as a family will give you peace of mind and help you reach a standard of living that will bring happiness and contentment. Having a good perspective of motherhood is healthy and will ease your mind of unnecessary worry.
4. Know you will make MISTAKES – Being a mother is a roller coaster ride. There are low’s and high’s. The mother guilt lows can be very depressing and the highs can be totally uplifting. Knowing that you will make mistakes on this lifetime ride, and so will your children, will allow you to forgive yourself, let go and move forward towards being a better, more educated and experienced mother. It is not easy raising children and knowing that all mothers make mistakes is comforting and brings relief!
5. Give yourself PRAISE – As a mother we are doing a great work within the walls of our homes. We are helping to raise wonderful cherubs who we love dearly and often do this under stressful circumstances and with very little sleep. Often we forget to praise ourselves for our efforts and to give ourselves a break. We forget to tell ourselves how wonderful we are, what an awesome woman we are and that we are doing a sensational job raising our children. When our children say ‘I love you mummy’, do we stop to think about just how wonderful the woman is that they are loving?
6. Have a sense of HUMOUR – Often when I am feeling like I have not done the best I could or it has all fallen apart around our home – I have found it is the perfect moment for having a good laugh. Many days the choice comes down to crying my eyes out or laughing my head off. The times when I have chosen to laugh have been some of my best memories. The children have joined in and we have turned a somewhat difficult situation into a fun filled joyful moment. Laughter truly is the best medicine and seeing the brighter side of life always feels so much better.
7. Know you are NOT ALONE – Motherhood can feel like a lonely journey some days. It can feel like all the children are against you and that you are the only one who is trying to teach, train and hold the family together. It can also feel like you are the only one dealing with your own personal struggles and trials and that no-one understand what you are going through. In my conversations with other mothers I have been surprised just how many other mothers feel exactly the same way I do with problems I face, worries I have for my children and with not knowing what to do next. Knowing that I am not alone in trying to be a great mother has brought me comfort, sweet assurance and peace. I have felt my burdens lifted as I opened up to share worries with other women and loved the advice, support and laughter we have shared.
8. Know your LIMITS – One of the ways to be a great mother is to know yourself. To respect yourself and be mindful of what you are capable of. Trying to keep up with other mothers and what they are doing often leads to unhappiness and exhaustion. We know what we can do, what is realistic for us to achieve and when we have reached our limit with emotions and physical stamina. When we take on too much, push ourselves too far and try to be someone we are not we can very quickly find ourselves in tears and wondering what went wrong. There is nothing wrong with saying no and protecting ourselves so that we can be happy and motivated to dedicate our energies to raising our families. Do what you know you can do and your family will love you for it.
9. Think POSITIVE THOUGHTS – Our internal thoughts often reflect how we truly feel about ourselves. When we speak kindly to ourselves we feel less stressed, less guilty and less pressured to perform at unrealistic levels in our mothering. Removing words such as ‘I should’ and ‘I have to’ helps us to find some freedom in the daily choices we need to make in raising our children. Reminding ourselves each day that we are making a difference, that we are a great mother and that there is no greater work we can do will help us be cheerful as a mother and allow us to find nobility in motherhood.
10. Give yourself PERMISSION – Every mother needs time alone. To breathe, to refresh and rejuvenate. The sooner you give yourself permission to have this time, the happier you will be. We often spend all of our time placing the needs of our family above our own and feel very guilty whenever we take a small amount of time for ourselves. Taking time out does not mean you do not care about your family. Taking time out shows your children that you care about yourself and your needs too. This precious time out is greatly needed and essential for emotional stability and a fresh outlook on motherhood.
I hope that these tips help you in some small way on your motherhood journey and I really appreciate you taking the time to read them.
If you can’t ‘park’ your kid’s request for roller skates, you won’t be able to cut corners for too long. You know, typical parenting problems, right? Sooner or later, you will have to reach out to your wallet. So, how do you latch on to the best roller skates for kids without being flummoxed by all the choices out there?
Gladly enough, we have done all the groundwork for you. After having the highest rate of refusal, we were able to pick ten products that were clearly better-made versions of their rivals. In our professional opinion, these roller skates are good enough to help you tick off an item from your bucket list.
Best Roller Skates For Kids in UK
[su_box title=”#1. Rio Roller Skates Unisex Children” style=”soft” box_color=”#ed9668″ radius=”5″]If you can’t remember the last time your kid was extremely happy over a present, it’s time to get him/her something non-related to computers or cell phones. The Rio Roller Skates Unisex Children should fit the bill perfectly over here to provide great entertainment to your kids for many years to come. Frankly speaking, there’s so much ‘fun’ to be gained from the product that you won’t end up with buyer’s remorse. This product will surely meet everyone’s expectations with flying colors.
Made from breathable mesh and PVC leather, the skating boots are smooth, speedy, and built to last. Also, the bearings on the skates are extremely silent. Above all, the wheel size is perfect to offer great stability with less efforts.
They are comfortable to wear. So, your kid won’t scream to take them off. Moreover, the product also has an eye-catching look to it. Furthermore, the smart product design makes it almost next to impossible to get blisters.
The product has a cool retro look to it. The chances are that your amateur kid might wear them to bed. Also, the skates stand up well to regular use. They can easily withstand a few years of frequent outdoor use.
[su_box title=”#2. Osprey Children’s Quad Skates Adjustable Roller Boots” style=”soft” box_color=”#ed9668″ radius=”5″]The Osprey Children’s Quad Skates Adjustable Roller Boots are kids focused roller boots that are well suited for kids taking the first steps on roller skating. They are lightweight, bright, and easy to control. For those who are not aware, the skates come in two dashing colors —pink and purple.
[su_box title=”#3. The Magic Toy Shop Kids Adjustable 4 Wheel Quad Roller Skates” style=”soft” box_color=”#ed9668″ radius=”5″]Why should junior kids miss all the fun? If they want to look ‘cool,’ this Magic Toy Shop Kids Adjustable 4 Wheel Quad Roller Skates can be of immense help. Yes, they could turn out to be a lovely gift for your little ones. They are brilliantly made with good brakes on them to prevent potential mishaps. What will follow is lots of giggles and hours of fun. Overall, it’s a good all-around skate for kids of various age groups.
The adjustment function works like a charm to comfortably fit growing feet. Not only is it easy to change sizes on these roller skates, but it’s also easy to get on and off the skates.
Although it’s made from soft material, the boots offer good ankle support. Moreover, the high-quality wheels and bearings offer the smoothest ride possible on a roller skate.
The pink color is very attractive, especially if the child loves this color. That said, the purple color is no less of an eye-pleaser. Overall, these skates are a great option for beginners as well as occasional skaters.
[su_box title=”#4. SFR Typhoon Adjustable Quad Skates” style=”soft” box_color=”#ed9668″ radius=”5″]As a first skate, there would be no better match than the SFR Typhoon Adjustable Quad Skates by any margin of imagination. These quad skates are sturdy, beautiful, reliable, comfortable, and user-friendly, all at the same time. Therefore, they can fulfill all your must-have wishes on any given day of the week. It’s like your prayers getting answered immediately without having any time for your feelings to get hurt.
Given the quality of these skates, you can expect nice and smooth action. The skates adjust very well, and the boots have breathable mesh to keep your feet dry and cool. Kids will be covering a lot of distance on these skates.
They look really cool in the color they are currently sold. Moreover, you won’t have to drop a small fortune to acquire them. Gladly enough, these SFR skates come at an affordable price tag.
The makers have made the product available in several different generous sizes. Better yet, it’s well-built to last for many years. It won’t be dumpster ready even after several years of use.
[su_box title=”#5. Kingdom Vector Quad Roller Skates” style=”soft” box_color=”#ed9668″ radius=”5″]The Kingdom Vector Quad Roller Skates is the queen of roller skates. These retro skates look fabulous and are wonderfully comfortable. Moreover, the skates are sized accurately, and they are fitted with fast and smooth PU cast wheels. Add in the inexpensive price, and you have a clear winner. Therefore, this product could be a successful present for any kid out there.
Unlike other roller skates, these are not overly heavy. To see the skates in action is a dream come true. It runs perfectly. So, you won’t feel miserable about ordering this product.
The Kingdom Vector Quad Roller Skates offer a nice blend of looks and functionality under the same hood. It would be hard to find an equally capable product at the same price point.
The skates are well-built, comfortable, and durable. The stoppers on this product are good as well. From the grip to the movement, everything is spot on. So, you can think of pulling off some stunts on these roller skates.
The product will result in hours and hours of fun for a hyperactive kid, both indoors and outdoors. Keep in mind that the size is flexible, and it makes minimal sound on the run.
[su_box title=”#6. SFR Skates Vision Li Skates” style=”soft” box_color=”#ed9668″ radius=”5″]With the SFR Skates Vision Li Skates, you get an excellent roller skate for indoor and outdoor use. The boots on the skate are mounted on a sturdy and lightweight frame for optimum speed and stability. Furthermore, the shoes come with traditional laces, Velcro straps, and high-top upper to secure one’s ankles like nobody’s business. Kids will absolutely enjoy their time on these skates.
Just like most other roller skates out there, these can wear out quickly on concrete.
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[su_box title=”#7. California Pro NEW Storm Unisex Quad Roller Skates” style=”soft” box_color=”#ed9668″ radius=”5″]If life is too short to keep playing a bad game, it’s time to introduce your kids to the California Pro NEW Storm Unisex Quad Roller Skates. The beauty of these skates is that they can provide hours and hours of fun and entertainment for several years and beyond for a one-time investment. Past customers have long agreed that this is one of the best gifts they have ever purchased for themselves or their family members.
The California Pro roller skates are equipped with PU casted HR82A 58x32MM wheels and high-rated skate bearings for a smooth performance. The skates are also more stable than the rivals to serve learning kids better than usual. Not to undermine the fact that they can make for a good adult skate as well.
The boots have a perfect fitting to them to hold the ankle securely without restricting the blood supply. Moreover, the skates are available in different sizes. So, almost everyone out there will find a perfect match. For added comfort, it features brushed nylon mesh on the outer side along with velvet and cozy foam lining.
Not the cheapest and not the most expensive either, the price of these roller skates is somewhere in between. So, they may not necessarily suit the wallets of all the budget roller skate shoppers out there.
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[su_box title=”#8. Roller Derby FireStar V2 Quad Skates” style=”soft” box_color=”#ed9668″ radius=”5″]Goes without saying, there is no such thing as a “picture-perfect” roller skates. But, the folks behind the Roller Derby FireStar V2 Quad Skates dared to come really close. They came up with a really well-made roller skate with the omission of quite a few noticeable product flaws that their rivals carry. Therefore, the roller skates have proved to be a hit with the masses. Given the popularity, the product has its competition in a tight spot.
The skates are fitted with high-quality plastic wheels. At the end of the day, high-quality plastic is still plastic—a piece of common sense.
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[su_box title=”#9. Xcess MX-S780 Boys Adjustable Inline Skates” style=”soft” box_color=”#ed9668″ radius=”5″]The Xcess MX-S780 Boys Adjustable Inline Skates is truly a product for the masses who don’t want to settle for anything less than the best. The Xcess MX-S780 roller skates can beat most of its major rivals by a landslide. Even if you were to scan for faults on this product, you would be surprised to find none (except for a minor drawback listed below). These skates are almost perfect in every way. Let’s take a tour of the Xcess MX-S780 roller skates to know more about the product.
The Xcess MX-S780 roller skates are well-made from top to bottom. It’s a breeze to get in and out of them. Moreover, they are easy to adjust to a skater’s size, and, of course, they are comfortable as hell. The product clearly has competition-destroying traits.
Most of the past customers out there have echoed the fact that they feel better than ‘fine’ using these roller skates. According to them, the Xcess MX-S780 roller skates have completely transformed their skating game, taking it to the next level.
The skates have high-strength two safety lock buckles to effectively protect the skaters. Although geared towards boys, girls can also give a shot at these high-quality roller skates. They just need to go for one size smaller than usual.
The only thing that could be improved on this product is the inclusion of an instruction manual. Of course, this cannot be looked upon as a major strike against these roller skates.
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[su_box title=”#10. Ventro Pro VT01 Turbo Ventro Pro Quad Roller Skates” style=”soft” box_color=”#ed9668″ radius=”5″]If your gut instinct has convinced you to look for more roller skates, then your search might end with our final contender — the Ventro Pro VT01 Turbo Ventro Pro Quad Roller Skates. These skates look very professional, and they are a blast to skate on. They are comfortable and securely fitted around the ankles to give first-timers the confidence to ride on them without the usual hiccups involved in the process.
TThe boots are made from Elastollan, which is the ideal material for roller skates. Also, they are very comfortable and nicely padded from the inside. The sizing is perfect as well. In fact, it allows room for growth. Better yet, the color and quality of these skates won’t hurt your feelings.
The skates can be considered by first-timers and competent skaters, or just about anyone else in between. At the time of this writing, the skates are being sold in at least ten different colors to suit the needs/taste of the vast majority of the audience.
For some reasons, the stopper button on the front gets loose. That said, it can be easily screwed back. And, the occurrence is rare. Everything said and done; these roller skates are a great option for skaters at all levels.
If you will ask children especially girls, they will surely tell that they want roller skates as a gift for their birthday. It is not only girls who love these shoes with wheels, but also boys as well. Parents also love the idea of roller skating for their kids, because it can give them some pride once they see their kids effortlessly skating around their neighborhood. One of the best things that you will love about this sport is that it can teach your kids balance, grace, and coordination at a very young age. They will also develop their motor skills as they play with their roller skates.
Buying a roller skates for kids
What roller skates should I buy for my kid? Just like adult roller skates, “kids roller skates” come in a wide variety of brands, styles, colors, and sizes to fulfill every kids need for roller skates. When roller skating, the roller skates are the most important piece of equipment you can buy (or buy for your kid), and that is why you should do some research before purchasing. There are many things you will need to decide (or have your kid decide)…
How often will my child be skating? Will my child be skating indoors or outdoors? What does he/she want to do on their skates (just play around on the street, race, dance, etc)? How much money am I willing to invest in my child’s skates, and does this budget include protective pads and a helmet? By answering these questions you will get a good basis on where you should start your search.
Kids Indoor Roller Skates vs. Kids Outdoor Roller Skates
Where will your child be skating? Inside at a roller rink, or out side on the sidewalk? This will be the first decision you need to make when purchasing you child roller skates.
The difference between kids indoor roller skates and kids outdoor roller skates is the wheels. Indoor roller skates have a harder wheel than outdoor skates. The softer outdoor wheels are made absorb vibrations form the rougher pavement giving them a smoother more comfortable ride. While roller skate wheels are able to be changed out from indoor to outdoor, I am sure you will not want to switch your child’s wheels every time he/she wants to go outside.
If your child is going to do both indoor and outdoor roller skating, my suggestion to you is to buy a nicer pair of skates for indoors, and less expensive pair of skates for outdoor… that way if he/she falls and scuffs up the outdoor boots, or accidentally goes through a puddle or some mud, it isn’t going to be as devastating when the outdoor skates get ruined.
Kids Roller Skate Sizing
My kids feet are still growing, what size should I get?
I know, I know, I know… your kids foot is still growing and you want to buy their skates big so they have some room to grow. While this theory works great for shoes, it never works for “roller skates”. Extra room means that the skate will be sloppy on your child’s foot leaving extra room for the foot to twist and turn in the roller skate. This extra room can cause twisted ankles, injured legs and knees, or worse. So please parents, do not buy skates for your kid that are 2+ sizes to big on them, it is not safe.
Kids roller skates run true to their actual shoe size, depending on the activity your child will be doing on their skates, you would never want to go more than one size larger than their actual shoe size. If you child will be participating in speed skating, dancing, or derby you will want the skates to fit as snug as possible so they get a direct response between their foot to the skate for optimal performance and a lesser chance of injury.
One nice thing about some outdoor roller skates is that some come in adjustable sizes. These skates grow with your child’s foot. These adjustable size roller skates adjust 3-4 sizes making the skates last for multiple years. What a great idea!
How much do kids roller skates cost?
Kids roller skates vastly vary in cost from £15 – £200+. Holy smokes! £200 for a pair of kids roller skates? Yes, I know. For £200 you get a VERY special pair of skates, typically for over £200 you are getting a full leather boot, upgraded wheels and bearings, and these skates are specifically made for competition artistic dancing, derby, or jam skating. Most kids do not fall into this group.
However, for £40-£50 you can get your child a very nice pair of beginner roller skates that will keep them comfortable, and will preform well for skating outdoors or for family skate night at the local roller rink. Typically roller skates that cost £25 or less are just toys for really little kids, these are skates that are made to be put on your kids feet to get them comfortable with the idea of roller skating. If you want your child to enjoy their skating experience spend at least £40.
Don’t forget about protective pads and a helmet!
Keep your kids safe! Just like with inline skating your child needs to be protected with a helmet, knee pads, elbow pads, and wrist guards. This is especially true when your kids are outside roller skating. There is nothing worse than a child with road rash on his/her knee and hands… except for a busted head of course.
It is imperative that your child always wear the right pair of roller skates to ensure their safety. It is important for you as a parent to realize that roller skating is a very dangerous sport that is why you need to make sure that your kid is wearing the right kind of gear. A wrong choice of roller blades for your kids can lead to accidents and severe injuries. Today, there are many choices when it comes to the roller skates for kids. These skates are made exclusively for young kids.
A good skates must include a high quality braking system at the back of the skates. This braking system must allow kids to stop immediately whenever they wants to stop. You also need to look for skates with a soft padding inside that will protect and give warmth in their feet while wearing their skates. Modern skates for little girls are made with a high rise length to help in binding the leg and the ankle for a secure and nice skates that can prevent added injury.
Roller Skating FAQ
The following is a list of many of the frequently asked questions about Roller skates or Roller skating.
[su_spoiler title=”Q: How do indoor and outdoor skates differ from one another?” open=”no” style=”default” icon=”plus” anchor=”” class=””]A: Indoor and outdoor are the same except for the wheels. Outdoor skates have softer wheels which help with going over cracks and bumps in the surface. Softer wheels have a better grip than harder wheels. Indoor wheels are harder so they can roll easily on indoor rinks and surfaces.[/su_spoiler]
[su_spoiler title=”Q: How do I know my size?” open=”no” style=”default” icon=”plus” anchor=”” class=””]A: Look at the size chart under the product you are interested in.[/su_spoiler]
[su_spoiler title=”Q: I noticed that wheels are offered in different sizes, why is that?” open=”no” style=”default” icon=”plus” anchor=”” class=””]A: The larger the wheel the more surface area you will cover with the least amount of effort. The larger wheels will move faster and will give the skater a smoother ride. Some people prefer smaller wheels, so it is a personally preference as to which wheel you like the best.[/su_spoiler]
[su_spoiler title=”Q: What does the hardness of the wheel mean?” open=”no” style=”default” icon=”plus” anchor=”” class=””]A: The hardness of a wheel or the durometer is typically measured on the A scale. The typically range is any where from 82A to 103A. The higher the durometer, the harder the wheel. The lower the durometer, the softer the wheel. For indoor skating it is best to get a wheel ranging from 90A to 103A and for outdoor use it is best to get a wheel that is below 90A.[/su_spoiler]
[su_spoiler title=”Q: What does ABEC stand for?” open=”no” style=”default” icon=”plus” anchor=”” class=””]A: ABEC is an acronym that is applied to bearings. ABEC stands for Annular Bearing Engineering Council. The ABEC is a rating on how “good” the bearing of a skate is. The higher the number that follows ABEC, the better the bearing is. The bearings are rated on a scale of ABEC-1, ABEC-3, ABEC-5, ABEC-7, and ABEC-9.[/su_spoiler]
[su_spoiler title=”Q: How many bearings will I need?” open=”no” style=”default” icon=”plus” anchor=”” class=””]A: You will need two bearings per wheel, so for quad skates you will need 16 bearings.[/su_spoiler]
[su_spoiler title=”Q: Should I buy a high top or low top boot?” open=”no” style=”default” icon=”plus” anchor=”” class=””]A: It is based solely on personal preference but high top boots will provide more support for the ankle and the foot. High top boots are commonly used for rhythm skating and artistic skating. Low top boots offer a wider range of motion for the ankle making it easier to move faster and do tricks. Low top boots are more popular and are commonly used for jam skating and speed skating.[/su_spoiler]
[su_spoiler title=”Q: What other type of gear will I need?” open=”no” style=”default” icon=”plus” anchor=”” class=””]A: To ensure a safe ride you will need knee pads, elbow pads, a helmet, and wrist guards. A backpack or fanny pack that holds a water bottle is a good idea also as you will need to stay hydrated.[/su_spoiler]
You want to enjoy the experience of watching your child discover the joys of the swimming pool. But kids and toddlers will need special thought to make sure their introduction to the water is positive, and most of all, safe. Here are some tips to help with introducing the kids to the swimming pool
Young bodies can’t handle much exposure, so the AAP recommends avoiding sun by the use of clothing – long pants, long-sleeved shirts, and brimmed hats. That way, the toddler doesn’t need sunscreen to regulate the exposure. When necessary, a small amount of sunscreen can be used on the face and back of hands. Also, limit time in the sun around 10 a.m. to 4 p.m., when the ultraviolet rays are the strongest.
Always within reach.
A child should not be left unsupervised, and young babies or toddlers should be held at all times. It doesn’t take long for a toddler to get in trouble – just a gulp of water at the wrong moment can send a child into a panic, so be able to respond to situations that might arise.
Have the toddler or baby wear a life jacket, even while they are being held at the pool. Finding the proper fit for a child is mostly determined by weight – children between 8 to 30 pounds will wear an infant jacket, and between 30 to 50 pounds, a child-sized jacket. Children will react to life jackets differently, so have your toddler or baby try it on before being around water, to make sure the child is comfortable.
Barriers for safety.
A fence around the pool prevents a toddler from accidentally wandering out into the pool area. The fence should be at least four feet high, have no footholds that a child could use to help climb, and have a self-latching gate with an alarm. If the house provides a barrier on one side, consider adding an audible alarm on doors with access. If there are windows that open on to the pool area, have alarms on those as well.
A swimming googles can help your kid in swimming and also encourage him to put their face in the water. One of the reason, kids don’t like to swim is because their eyes get sore in chlorinated water. A swimming google will protect your child’s eye against the chlorinated water and provide comfort and will undoubtedly enjoy their enhanced vision under the water.
Model the fun of water.
Children will respond differently to being brought to the pool. Watch for those differences, and work with them.
If your toddler responds positively, and takes to the water with a big smile, just allow them to have fun. While holding him against your chest, gradually let the child feel the water on his body, and smile while you’re doing it, to signal “this is fun.” The child will quickly pick up on and respond to this reinforcement.
Another toddler may be hesitant or fearful about being introduced to the water. Don’t force the child at this point. Gradually allow the child to see that the water is not frightening. While Dad holds the baby not far from the pool, have Mom go in the water and splash around, smiling and happy, to model “fun!” If the toddler wants to venture near the water while Mom is in it, consider that a success, and if the child sits down next to Mom by the side of the pool, that’s wonderful.
By providing a safe environment through the use of barriers, considering things like exposure to the sun, and keeping kids always within reach, parents will be rewarded by smiles and laughter as the toddler figures out that the water is a fun place to be.
Mornings with little ones can be rough and frantic. It also sets the tone for the rest of your day to be as crazy as you started it. No wonder it’s difficult for moms to find time for doing some exercise. But here’s a thought: schedule an early morning workout that starts before your kids get up. No, really! It’s not as hard as it sounds.
If you’re skeptical about making this work, click through for the top benefits of morning exercise for mommies. Soon, you’ll want to rise, shine and get that heart pumping.
Get in a full workout
When you start your day before your children wake up, it’s quieter, less hectic and therefore more productive. In those quiet moments before the storm you’ll better serve your own body. You can hop on that treadmill or do living room yoga without worrying about demands. The only direction you’ll be pulled in is where your body takes you.
Say goodbye to your mom pooch
Exercise in the beginning of the day gets all your systems jump-started. It boosts your metabolism for the day when you need it, instead of at night when it’s not as beneficial. Your body will burn more calories throughout the day while you’re getting things done. Plus, you’ll have more energy to tackle your to-do list — all because of that little extra time you took to sweat in the AM.
Enjoy the silence
In the quiet mornings, after your workout, you may find yourself with a little extra time before the kiddos wake up. This can be an opportunity to finally read that novel on your book list. Or maybe invest more time in your beauty routine. You’ll be reminded of your own personhood aside from your kids so you don’t get lost in your role as mother.
Run a tight ship
Perhaps you’d rather take the time after your workout to set up breakfast and pack lunches. The kids will wake up hungry but will fuss less knowing that food is already made and ready to be gobbled up. With all this prep time, you’ll feel less rushed and be less likely to forget anything before taking the kids to school.
A morning workout will put you in the “go-go-go” mentality that can further motivate you to get things done. You’ll get a head start on your tasks while you ride the momentum a jump-started morning provides. Exercise keeps you alert and your muscles warmed and limber, so you have less stress and aches holding you back from your day.
Be a happy influence
You’ll have a good day from the beginning so your family has one too. It’s always best to start the day on the right foot so you’re better able to handle any challenges that arise. Working out is the best source of endorphins that you can give yourself. Endorphins keep you happy and are natural antidepressants. The more often you get a morning dose of this happy drug, the more smiley you can be for yourself and your family. Plus, it’s better than having to undo your stress at the end of the day.
Keep on track
When you make your workout your first priority in the day, it’s easier to accomplish and maintain. You won’t have any distractions or hang-ups to hold you back. There will be no scrambling to squeeze it in after work or between errands. Once you commit to a morning routine, slacking will make it feel like you didn’t start the day right, thus you’ll keep at it.
Beat the traffic
Depending on when you wake up for your early workout, you can likely enjoy it fairly privately. If dad is home to watch the kids in the morning you can get out of the house for some fresh air – without an audience. Gyms before 8a .m. are not as crowded, so there won’t be competition for equipment. And the neighborhood is still pretty sleepy, so your nosy neighbors won’t stare as you run around the block.
Keep your dinner dates
Since you make your body the focus of the start to your day, you reserve and protect that time for nothing else. Not a lot is happening kid- or work-wise in the early morning, so you won’t have to scratch your workout due to a parent-teacher conference or some random playground fiasco. You’re free to just do you.
Make room for health
When you’re burning those calories in the AM, you’re more likely to crave a big, healthy breakfast. This will help ensure that you try to eat well for the most important meal of the day. It will most likely keep you full until lunch, so you won’t overeat. Plus, you’d be more motivated to maintain the progress you made in the morning and approach each meal afterwards with more mindfulness.
Enjoy some grown-up time
Since working out gets the blood flowing, it can definitely facilitate arousal. Plus exercise is known to help with depression and anxiety. With a little exercise effort in the mornings, you’ll be less stressed about your motherly duties so you can focus more on those wifely privileges.
Knock out faster
Working out has long been linked to improved sleeping habits. It gives you just enough stress to boost your energy for the day without harming you. Then it makes your body crave sleep later to undo the stress. As long as you don’t work out too close to bed time, you could be enjoying a restful night regularly.
Bend your workout to your own needs
The most important thing to keep you motivated with your workout is to take it easy. Don’t be too hard on yourself if you miss a day. Also remember that your workout doesn’t have to be super intense for it to be worthwhile. A simple 10 minute jog can still do some good. As long as you intently try to remember the purpose of your workout, you’re more likely to succeed at it.
Eating out with toddlers can be difficult. They get excited and confused by all the new people, sights and sounds. And when they tire from such a stimulating environment, they tend to act out in inappropriate ways. But going to restaurants with toddlers does not have to be an unpleasant experience. There are things that parents can do to help their youngsters (and themselves!) enjoy a meal away from home. Here are 10 valuable tips for dining out with toddlers:
Before you go to the restaurant, have your toddler practice saying the phrase “nice woman” so he doesn’t blurt out “big woman” when the waitress comes to take your order. She may not be big at all, but it makes no difference to your little social miscreant to whom everything and everyone is now big.
There are lots of kid-friendly restaurants that provide entertaining games, balloons, clowns and crayons. Never go to one of these places because all the noisy children there will absolutely ruin your meal.
Instead, go to the a little expensive restaurant. The classier the place, the less likely it is that any other boisterous children will be there to interfere with your meal. And the staff will be polite enough to pretend they don’t notice when your little darling spits a mouthful of roast beef onto the table while cryptically complaining, “It’s not working.”
Remind your nice waitperson how funny it was in the movie Animal House when John Belushi spewed mashed potatoes out of his mouth and onto other people.
Bring a small container of some of your child’s favorite foods – Cheerios, apple slices, cheese, etc. That way, when he’s done throwing the restaurant food you had ordered for him off his plate, he’ll have some familiar snacks to throw on the floor, too.
If it’s apparent that your little one is just too distracted to eat in the restaurant, don’t force the issue. He’ll be hungry when you get home, though, so be sure to ask your nice server to put the perfectly good food that’s on the floor into a “to go” box.
Bring earplugs. They’ll allow you to finish your meal calmly and in silence while your precious one screams and writhes in what appears to be the most unbearable distress because you, the big meanie, won’t let him stand on the table and grab the chandelier.
Take a fully charged Dustbuster. Those seated at neighboring tables may give you some odd looks when you turn it on, but you’ll be glad you have it when toddler-boy discovers that the salt and pepper shakers, not to mention the sugar bowl, don’t have childproof caps.
Go ahead and let him crawl around under your table – it will keep him entertained. And don’t worry if he somehow escapes, makes his way under another party’s table, points at an elderly lady’s crotch and loudly asks, “What’s that?” The other party will undoubtedly find it all terribly cute and endearing, and you can just laugh it off by explaining that he’s at an inquisitive stage.
And finally, never ever go back to that same restaurant again. Instead, the next time you eat out, go to a completely different place so a whole new group of restaurant workers and patrons get to experience the joy that is your toddler dining in public.
Perhaps because women are busier than ever before, men are venturing into what used to be “mom” territory. They’re getting more involved in those aspects of their children’s school days that don’t involve goalposts or baseball diamonds.
“If you’re a father, there are big benefits to becoming deeply entrenched in your children’s academic lives,” says Stephan Poulter, a licensed clinical psychologist and author of Father Your Son: How to Become the Father You’ve Always Wanted to Be. “First, it shows them that you care. Your involvement in such a major part of their lives builds their self-esteem and thus their success in school and, ultimately, adulthood. Second, it shows them that education matters to you. And when it matters to Dad, it usually matters to kids, too.”
Poulter is not implying that a father’s involvement is more important than a mother’s. Indeed, he emphasizes the importance of both parents making an effort, especially in an era when school is more demanding than ever. He offers the following 14 suggestions:
Help your child get off to a good start. Whatever form your involvement may take, start doing it at the beginning of the school year. The first four weeks are the most critical because they set the tempo for the rest of the year.”
The first day of school and the first parent-teacher conference are important for Dad to be at, as this will set the tone for the school teacher and administrators of the level of involvement the child receives from his/her parents”
Share your expectations for the school year. Discuss upcoming big events with your child. He will not feel as overwhelmed if you discuss these events in advance.A father should schedule out school events just as he does projects at work. And just as with work, a weekend sit down to discuss upcoming events is crucial for the father to remain a resource to his children.
Make sure you meet your child’s teacher and stay in touch even if things are going well. The teacher tends to call you more quickly to elicit support and help with your child if she feels you are involved.
Don’t be the dad who shows up only when there is a problem. If you ignore their education until there is a problem, they may learn that poor academic performance is the only way to get your attention.
“Even when I can’t be there, I make an effort to show my kids that their schooling is important,” says Todd Franco, a resident physician at Mercy Hospital in Pittsburgh, Pa., and a father of three. “As soon as I come through the door and give out hugs and kisses, I ask to see their folders from school.”
Step foot in the school at least once a week. Take your child to school, eat lunch with her in the cafeteria, go on field trips, attend a sporting event and so forth. Show up unannounced from time to time. If you’re a divorced dad, this is a great way to spend time with your children and to meet their friends.
“Because of my schedule, being at school on a regular, predictable basis is generally out of the question,” Franco says. “When I am off, I make it a priority to walk my kids to or from school – both if I have the entire day off.”
What is more reasonable is that they ensure that scheduled school events are more important than the next ‘boys night out’ and that a father schedules a reasonable number of visits during the course of the fall and spring semesters to non-verbally reinforce with their children that they are important to you.
Make time for your child to tell you about her day and also take the time to tell her about your day. If you can establish a good communication pattern and rapport with your child, she will be much more likely to talk to you about any problems she is having.
Remember that Monday, Tuesday and Wednesday are the heaviest “homework days.” Take that into consideration when planning the family schedule. Monitor your child’s homework assignments to make sure they are completed correctly and in a timely manner.Nixon points out that a dad often gets home after homework is completed or started.
“Keep it simple,” he says. “When you get home, drop the briefcase … do not turn on the TV or change clothes. Get in a relaxed mindset for a moment and then look over your child’s shoulder to see what he is doing and to let them know you are a resource for [him] if [he needs] it.”
If your child is elementary school age, read with her at least twice a week for 30 minutes. If you do this, she will likely be more willing to do her homework and participate more in class. Take her to the library once every week or two and let her choose her own reading material.
Suggest that your child’s school implement a program that brings parents into the classroom to describe their careers. This is a great way to help kids realize the broad range of opportunities available to both men and women.
When helping with homework, don’t take a “Dad to the rescue!” attitude. If your child needs help with a difficult assignment, work through it with him and help him understand how the process leads to the final answer. If you try to solve problems for your child, you will foster dependence rather than self-sufficiency and confidence.
It’s OK if you can’t answer a particular question. It shows your child that no one has “all the answers” but that it’s possible to find them. Help her find the answer. Go to the encyclopedia or get online and, together, seek out the answer.
If your child isn’t meeting your academic standards, let him know that you expect him to do better on future assignments. Just don’t turn homework into a war zone. When you rely on positive encouragement rather than threats or punishment, he will try to meet your expectations.
If special tutoring is necessary, don’t make your child feel ashamed. And don’t make her forgo other commitments such as sports activities. Remember that her self-acceptance is far more important than her success in school. If she’s truly doing her best, it’s OK if she doesn’t get straight A’s.
Keep reading to your child even after he learns how. This may be especially critical for boys, who tend not to do as well in reading. When your son sees you reading books and magazines, he gets the message that reading is enjoyable and “manly.””My career requires that I still read on a regular basis, so my children are used to seeing Dad reading,” says Franco. “I do wish I read more for enjoyment, but at least I try not to complain about the reading I do.”
“When children have the support of both parents, they take school more seriously,” Poulter says. “Even a few small efforts can make a big difference in your child’s future. And you will probably surprise yourself by enjoying the time you share.”
Avoid Germ Spreaders
You know that person who has watery, dull bloodshot eyes (who cares if it is just a hangover)
The red or runny nose
The slumped posture from lack of energy (if your a mum you look like this on a regular basis)
The pale colouring (but not albinos….they are pale normally)
The guy in the corner that is trying to stiffle his cough or sneeze (ok it could be hay fever but who wants to take the chance)
Did you know that When a person coughs or sneezes, they expel droplets that can travel over 3 feet.
Guide to Germ Spreaders or who to avoid
The Male Species
When a male experiences life threatening situations or chest pain we know he will blame the food he had the night before
But the first sign of a sniffle he will act if you should call life flight to fly him to the nearest hospital then to the morgue. When he is sick with a cold he will complain loudly, act helpless as if he is dying and leave tissues everywhere for you to pick up. No one has ever been this sick in their life.
Best thing is to avoid him as he wants you to wait on him hand and foot. I say put him in a seperate room (or house) if possible cause he will need lots of comfort…Woe betide you when you catch his minor cold and become very ill due to being run down from looking after the baby and behave like him…he runs a mile.
The Female Species
She is easy to spot as she can’t afford to take time out to be sick so she will go on a therapeutic shopping trip and have a huge handbag this week.
It will consist of echinacea tinctures, green tea, various herbs and potions and a copy of the chemist’s latest book on “how tostay well during the flu season.” If it is only a minor illness she will usually be seen supporting a new pair of shoes and possible even a new outfit or hairdo depending on whether she thinks she is well enough not to pass the germ onto the hair dresser as well.
Because the female species likes to look good when out in public she will not easily be recognised because we all know the magic you can do with make up and concealers. She is a danger because she looks healthy but in reality she is quite contagious. She has learned to suffer in silence and soldier on as the world stops without her
The Little Species…commonly called major germ spreaders
Anything under the age of five should be completely avoided as they are either sick or about to be unless they have severe GERM FREAK parents. Its often hard to tell if one of these are ill as they usually still believe they are whirlwinds and cannot stop because they may miss something. If one of these creatures are actually lying still either in a bed or on a couch or attached to the female species as if their life depends on it, steer clear, it is real serious and you may never recover.
The Distinctive Sneezer
This species is commonly seen multiple sneezing, stiffling sneezes, wet sneezes that shower you or the really wet sneeze that bathes you all over. The one that sneezes regarldess of what you get out says oh that always makes me sneeze. I’m allergic to it. (It may be hay fever or one of its associated diseases) but what if it isn’t. What if they are not actually allergic and have just sneezed 2000 microbes all over you. It takes only 100 microbes to pass it
This species is commonly seen hacking away or have an annoying cough, the barking seal and the lets all just cough up a lung while we are at it and finally the ah hem cough. (what is he clearing out of his throat.)
These are the main type of Dangerous germ spreaders, the ones to avoid at all costs. Well in a perfect world anyway
Wouldn’t it be so much fun if we could hide in a bubble til all these species are eliminated?
Some of these things I have mentioned may be perfectly harmless but do you want to take the chance…I leave you with these thoughts and wonderments today
Apart from the fact a sneeze can travel over 3 feet, the droplets can remain on surfaces for up to 48 hours
The actual SARS virus can survive on plastic surfaces for 24 hours. Think of that escalator hand rail you have just touched, the elevator button, all the grocery items in the store
When a person has a cold they transmit it to another person on the second to fourth day of infection when the nasal secretions are the highest.
Remember most GERMS hitchhike they don’t fly so wash wash wash your hands correctly.
These are several rules, which will help you in a pious work of children upbringing.
You should never come home being too hungry
Pangs of hunger, especially after a hard working day, can make anyone irritable and impatient. So before you leave work, try to snack something or at least drink a cup of sweet tea. You will become more complacent and stand a burst of your offspring’s elation from a long-awaited meeting with you easier.
Don’t overdo on work
As a result of excessive physical and mental load a level of hormone adrenalin increases in blood, this causes a heartthrob, heightened arterial pressure and, as a result, bad health and irritability. Coming home in such state, you will definitely splash out all your negative emotions on your child.
A child will hardly understand a true reason of your irritation. But he will have a feeling, that even his closest person doesn’t need him. So try not to overdo on your work, and , when you come home, forget about your problems for a while.
Don’t say words or even hints, which can make your child think that your work is more important for you, than him
A child should be assured that he’s the most important person in the world for you, that your work can be very necessary and interesting for you, but your heart belongs to a child. You like your work, and you love your child. Set out the priorities the right way.
Communication with a child should be priority for parents
This rule concerns women especially. How do you think, which opinion should have a person, whom you explain that communication with him is nothing comparing with cooking a meal?
Unfortunately, we often have to see how children are impressed that they should not pester with a mom, when she’s busy with the “most important” thing – scaling fish or peeling vegetables, and if she’s baking, then a child should forget she exists on this earth at all.
A child should be an equal partner
Don’t discriminate a child, charging him with the dirtiest work at home. Why a child should take out a garbage can? Because you are in command.
Don’t assert yourself owing to your child
You’re an adult person, and you know and can more only due to this reason. You wash dishes and play computer games better. But if you want your child to be self-confident unlike many other modern children, then try to behave the way he could feel he’s skilled and bright while communicating with him.
Work should be a source of funds for your family’s comfort existence and no more
If work is a sense of your whole life, then it would be more honest not to start a family at all. But if you still have a baby in your family, he should feel he’s much more important for you, than any work can be.
When you organize your combined rest, consider interests of all family members. Don’t do a favor to your child, going to the zoo acidly.
Appearance of a baby in your family – is your own decision, not his, and you will have to take responsibility. Let combined rest bring joy to a child. Plan your home matters the way your communication with a child would be foremost (may be you can even reduce them).
Be an attentive listener
While communicating with a child, consider his words, pay attention to his intonations, a child should feel his words are important for you.
Don’t value your child’s actions, but try to understand him. This way a base of mutual trust between parents and children is laid. As you are busy on your work, besides you also have home matters, every day you should find time for a full-value communication with your child. Value of communication is measured not by quantity of time you spend together, but by its qualitative characteristics, which are expressed in attention, respect, understanding.
Don’t be afraid to consult your child
Tell a child about your work, share your thoughts and feelings with him. Show him what it means to be open, don’t be afraid to tell a child about your weak points and problems, explain him that you trust him and count on his support.
It will be even better, if you ask your child for suggestions and listen to his words. This way you’ll teach him formulating and expressing his opinion.
Don’t reproach a child with money
On no account make any statements and even hints about a child’s material dependence from you. Yes, your child doesn’t earn money yet, but he has plenty of time. And who knows, may be this situation will change and some time in your old age you’ll be materially dependent on him. Don’t set precedents – and then you won’t have to blush in your old age.